When to release

As those of you who learned how to fly fish from Den (and there are a few of you, I know) you know there are times when "releasing" is the right thing to do. 

Releasing Den from ICU to a hotel room one night after brain surgery when he cannot hold down food isn't one of those times.

I am happy to report that with some advocating by a sensible, intelligent, and listening nurse, Den will have one more night in the ICU. This comes as a relief: Taking him to a hotel tonight would have put a stress on my parents for sure.

Mom is holding up great. I am impressed by how calm she is dealing with all of this, and how logically. She has spent the entire day by his side, making sure he is ok and getting necessary care. I saw Den this morning, Michael is there now, and I will bring the kids to see Den--one at a time-- in an hour. I think he feels supported and safe during this foggy time. He looks good but seems very, very tired. I think mom could use a glass of wine and a good meal. Our plan is to make sure that happens tonight.

Thank you all for checking in. I will post again tomorrow before my family and I head back to missoula.

Daphne